What makes you happy?

Only two months ago, I sat down and asked myself, '''what really do you want to be In his life?"

now, you see, It was so easy for me to start describing and envisioning how good of a software engineer I would love to be and how  I would like to develop software's and applications that will endorse billions of all manner of currencies.

That same thing that prompted the question in me then asked me, ''If that all happened, would you be happy?'' If I did create all manner of applications and acquired all the money I could get, would that complete my happiness?

I figured that I will have a sense of accomplishment but that didn't mean I would be happy.

It is totally okay to dream and have ambitions of what and what not you would like to be and do in the future, but almost all the time, we get so carried away with selfish ambitions thinking that when we have accomplished all that, our joy would be full.

Time and people have proven that more often than not, this is not the case. You can get all the money and fame in the world and still remain unhappy. The problem with people in our time is they are so carried away with the superficial things of the world and pay very little attention to those things that will be beneficial to their souls.

Beyond the plans and dreams to make money, own businesses, get on Forbes list and all, do you also plan for the way you could contribute to the society? like possible health care for those who can not afford it, or education for the numerous children out of school, or just the smallest thing to make life a little easier for someone else.

I hear people say all the time that when they become successful, they will definitely do that, but I dare say it wont happen, they only say it to keep their conscience at peace. If you cannot begin to envision and think about it the way you think about your personal dreams and goals, even when you have the means to it, you will find it hard because your mind was just never there.

I want to challenge you to begin to dream and think of your goals that will contribute not only to society but to the less privileged. And I want you to know that anything you do for money is not beneficial to your soul.

When you understand that there is always accomplishment in happiness but not always happiness in accomplishment, you'll begin to look at the world with clearer eyes, and your goals wouldn't revolve just around you any more.

Half Way through ... Carry out Assessments.

It has been quite a while since I posted before my last post and I asked myself why that was, because I had already told myself that 2016 was going to be a year of consistency and persistence, but less than half way into the year I stopped blogging.

Rubie what was your reason I asked? I didn't even have a cogent answer for it, but I later admitted I didn't think anyone was reading or interested in reading anything I was writing.

So I asked myself again, who do you write for and why do you write? My response, "I write for the people interested in reading real and Holy Spirit inspired write-ups and I write because it is my place of expression, I also feel a kind of joy when I write".

From these three lines, three things were established.

1) I write for people interested in reading. meaning obviously not everyone will be interested, but there are some who will be.

2) Majority of what I write is Holy-Spirit inspired. I kind of get dictations sometimes from what I am hearing in my spirit, so asides from interest, it is obedience.

3) I feel happy when I write. not when people read, but when I write.

And then just an extra one, I'm also even breaching my goal of being consistent and persistent in anything I do this year.

Guess the bitter truth? I know 100 percent I am not in this alone. There are so many things you hoped to have achieved at certain points in this year but are all still hopes. You haven't made any a reality.

What I want you to do is to sit and do exactly what I did. Don't assume reasons why things didn't work. Always find out the reason why and then make it work. I recently found a new meaning to the word "understanding" and the meaning says "The ability to link cause and effect"

When you see the effect of something and you are unable to say this is what caused it, this definition says you lack understanding because you are failing to link the effect of an occurrence to it's cause.

Do not give up on something you have failed to achieve now, it is not too late. If you can still do it, please go for it. When I am reviewing my goals for this year, I'm certain I will be so happy for this decision I have made as to keep up with consistency and persistence in blogging however too late it might be and I hope you will too.

Not every time hang out with friends. Some times, hang out with yourself and talk and assess yourself on your progress thus far.

CHASE THOSE DREAMS!   

I sat down with a couple of friends yesterday and we were doing some planning for an event we needed to organise, ladies are really so amazing, thinking of it now, it is so funny how the conversation touched almost everything I can think about, (blessings of a woman) talk about so much in such little time.

Anyway, I can't even explain how we got to everyone spilling out their dreams and just saying what it is they see themselves doing in this life, I was honestly so inspired as I sat there, getting into the worlds of each person as they spoke about what they wanted with so much passion, a particular someone started to tear up and I was really awed.

As I listened, I found it so funny how some people's dreams wasn't necessarily in sync with what they were currently doing in university but still, they had so much zeal as they spoke about it.

   Fast forward to later that night, I sat and just reminisced on the day and it's occurrences and as I thought of that conversation, I was reminded about how rich and blessed this world is! You really should have heard some of those dreams I heard. And I thought to myself that every single person has a dream that they are so passionate about to even bring them to a point of tears, just like the young women I sat with that afternoon.

I began to ask God, if you are the one placing the dreams in these people, why don't they manifest at some point in life?

Why do we still have people with the most amazing dreams unemployed? or working somewhere, making someone else actualise their dreams?

And I heard in my spirit, "the power to dream is inevitable", it is one of our blessings from God, but certain principles have shown that if you can dream it, you can get it, it is a thing of the mind, but "even as dreaming is inevitable, planning and getting to work is very much needed, and cannot be avoided".

Have you noticed how big your dreams are?, do you see that they appear to be so much bigger than you are?, it is how its suppose to be, cause it is encouraging you and telling you that there's work to be done.

I made a promise to myself to bring all my dreams to a reality, I am not going to add to the numerous people who have decided to forsake their dreams for reasons that may seem logical enough to them or worse still, die with that much in me. And I use the word 'decided' very intentionally because whether you admit it or not, there has been a conscious or unconscious decision that has been made.

   And I am just writing this to encourage you too, God placed those dreams in you and He cannot wait to see you actualise them but you cannot sit around dreaming about it all day, you need to get your hands to the plough and begin to work! You need to sit and plan and pray because the bible tells us that a man would sit and plan but it is God that will direct his path, meaning that beyond your plans, God has a way He would like you to use and get to that beautiful dream of yours.

I imagined God so sad with the number of people throwing away such amazing dreams that He had placed in them and I just want you to know that He is so much more interested in your success and greatness in life than you are, however hard it may seem for to believe.

Make those dreams a reality! 

The 'little' things

   I recently just discovered something, as little and as insignificant as it sounds, it is the absolute truth. As human beings there are a lot of things we seem to take for granted, a lot of times we're not even conscious of it. We don't see it worthy enough to appreciate it by even a 'thank you'.

   I have a housemate who was always kind and considerate enough to put off the heater each time she was done in the bathroom, she had been doing it since we all moved in together and it really is something we all should do each time we use the shower but for some reason, since she always did it, we always left it for her to do. Prior to that, she would always tell us once in a while to please not forget to switch it off, and even when she said so, she would still go back to check before she left the house. It became the norm for us for her to do it. By the way, it is a process to switch it off but she always found the time to do it even when she was rushing. My other housemates and I never saw it as anything for her, we never appreciated her with even a thank you or just something to let her know that we acknowledge the fact that she's doing something we're all meant to do.

Two weeks ago she travelled for the holiday, in real sense, her leaving for holiday didn't mean that the heater should be left on always but because we always left it for her to do, and got use to the fact she always did it, we left it on for 8 days and on that 8th morning, someone went in to use the bathroom and found it spoilt. It refused to come on, and we couldn't fix it. Of course we were to blame but no one would take the blame for it. P.s we ended up spending a ton of money just to fix it.

   Moral of this story: that little thing someone is doing for you, no matter how little it is, show the person you see what they are doing and say thank you. Don't wait till you are without it to appreciate it. You can be sure that we all called my housemate that was away and said a big thank you for all the times she put it off when we forgot to and refusing to listen to her when she reminded us to do it. She was so thrilled just by that gesture.

   We tend to take the smallest things for granted and whether we know or not, the person performing the action also feels taken for granted. Something happens when we appreciate people, it's something natural, I think its more psychological but even me as a person, I know how I feel when someone notices my effort and says thank you.

  Recently I learnt that being grateful makes what you have enough. be thankful and appreciative even for the smallest things.

 

 

it doesn't get easier! You get better!

   

I'm sure for everyone, there's been that point in life when you thought "omg, I'm never going to be able to do this" and now looking back to that thing, your doing it with so much ease now and even wonder what you were thinking all those other times you thought you couldn't handle it.
   Anyways, have you wondered if it really did get easier or you just got better at it!?
For the majority of humans I know, they don't exactly like to give themselves credit for the things they do so a lot of people will resort to the first option being that it got easier but majority and if not most of the time, you actually get better!! :)
Give yourself a pat on the back for me.
   There's absolutely nothing wrong In appreciating yourself for something amazing that you did, weather or not someone noticed it. #selflove is the absolute best thing in the world!
Sadly, there is actually a very very thin line between confidence and cocky, it's very okay, in fact very advisable to be absolutely confident, it actually has an effect on the way you carry yourself, but you have to be absolutely careful not to get too confident which gets into cocky, we don't want to feel that way trust me.
   The new job you just started, and that new course you started doing that seems a lot easier or maybe not as bad when you started was as a result of YOU getting better! It actually didn't get easier!!!
Cut yourself some slack and celebrate you!!! And just to encourage all you out there who just started something new, or maybe thinking of something and at the same time thinking "it's going to be so hard". Why not leap out and see! Equate the fear stopping you from reaching out to the drive you have within you and watch it cancel out that fear!.

THE WORTH OF A SMILE...

We may never be able to explain truly the power of a smile.

   I was at a mall yesterday and like all other malls, it was filled with a lot of people probably shopping for the week as it was Saturday.

After a while, I found myself at the coffee section just to get a bottle of water because I was so dehydrated. I took a sit at the end of the shop so I could look out the window just so I didn't get idle.

   About fifteen minutes later, an old lady, very pretty took a sit at a table right beside me with her shopping cart. 

She then looked in my direction and asked if I would like to have coffee with her, I politely declined because I really didn't have that time and she was also still a stranger to me.

When her coffee arrived, I was still there, sipping my water and scrolling through my phone when she asked me to come and sit with her and keep her company, I was at first skeptical but she seemed so genuine and also really lonely so I obliged and sat opposite her.

   She started the conversation and said I had a pretty smile, that caught me off guard at first because I really didn't remember smiling at her. 

But she went back after probably feeling my uneasiness and said that while I was sitting at the window looking out as people walked in and out I apparently smiled at her, I remember smiling at anyone who made eye contact with me so I couldn't possibly remember all of them.

   But yes, that was how our conversation started and I spent quite a while talking to her, seems really insignificant but I know what I learnt within the period I sat with her and when she left.

And right before I left, she gave me a hug and said 'keep on smiling'... That went a long way in making my day pretty awesome.

The best part for me was the fact that she was white, it was a reminder that the world truly is evolving, who knew that today a black and white person would sit and have a conversation. days like this we have reasons to be grateful to the likes of Nelson Mandela.

And yea, you can be sure I left that mall smiling at every single individual I passed.

My point, I think smiling brings opportunities, it turns days around, and it costs nothing really just to smile at someone, you never really know who needed that reassurance from your smile.

How well do you know you?

Knowing yourself is the best thing that YOU can do for YOU.
   Because putting YOU in a position it doesn't want to be in only minimizes your output.
Only recently I started to discover some things about myself, I found out that unlike most people would say about me, i actually dislike being around too many people, i prefer to be alone, in order words as a person, I'm introverted. This is very contrary to what people know me to be. And because they knew me like this and constantly told me, I tried to fit into what they thought I should be, what they said I was. It didn't make me happy and that suppressed certain things in me because It Is in my quiet times I tend to produce the best results.
   Spend some time with yourself and find out who you really are. Don't let people around tell you who you are, be the one telling them who you are. Shun whatever you have heard about yourself and ask yourself who are YOU?....lol
Don't settle for those things you're not comfortable with, let it out and let people know.